You haven’t been for weeks, but you can’t tell your boss. Open communication and honesty don’t seem like your boss’ style a typical perception in many organizations, and particularly for new employees. If you experience something in your job that makes you unhappy and isn’t within your direct control, say so.
Regardless of this stifling perception, you should speak up. If you experience something in your job that makes you unhappy and isn’t within your direct control, say so. It’s the only way your boss can work to make it better — and you simply can’t expect them to be a mind-reader. So get yourself together, get in there and make the job better, simply by getting real with your boss.
Before you bring an issue or proposed change to the table, make sure you’re a top performer. Demonstrate that you are someone worthy of identifying areas in the organization that need improvement by being engaged and committed to your work. Work hard, produce great results, receive great reviews, and your boss will take your suggestions more seriously. First, because they want to keep you. And second, because you’ve demonstrated that you have ideas worth pursuing. Crush the job despite any hurdles first, then prep to have “the talk.”
Write down your list of uncensored grievances, emotion and all, but keep it to yourself. The list will help you sort out the root causes of problems and identify any patterns. Plus, it’s cathartic. Just be sure to never, ever, put that uncensored list in an email — or you probably won’t be around long enough to regret it.
To prepare that list, ask yourself questions like, “During which times do I feel most upset at work?” or, “If I could change just one thing about this job, what would it be?” to identify what might be triggering negative emotions. Try to pinpoint which specific aspects of your job don’t work for you, such as working with a specific person, on a particular type of project, or using a certain tool to complete a task. Read more…